What did I ask?

Joel: Ei, do you usually take the bus or train to school?
Friend: I hate buses!
Joel: Did I ask whether you liked buses or trains? I asked you a simple question yet you did not know how to answer.

Was I too mean or was this okay? Sometimes we tend to give irrelevant answers to various questions threw at us. Like my friend, I wasn't interested in her thoughts toward buses she told me anyway.

I myself, am learning to provide answers properly.